WWF Reunion!

My weekend got kicked off to a good start when I met up with some friends from my old work place for a BYO dinner at Cafe Cuba which USED TO BE my favorite place to go out for dinner. I'm not sure if the service we got was a trend of the whole cafe or just a couple of new employees. I'm not really one to cause a fuss about customer service but since I've been living with Nicole she has pointed out many stark differences between the customer service one would expect in Canada and New Zealand.

We got there and a table had been set up for us inside- we had decided on the way that we would ask to be seated outside as we assumed we would get too loud to be seated outside... we were also relieved to have made this decision once we got there when we heard the young child screaming right next to the table we were supposed to be at. So I politely asked if it would be possible for us to move outside to the waitress that seated us. "Yeah thats ... fine" she replied hesitantly - keep in mind we are a pretty easy bunch to please and all if would take was for the waitress to move 6 knives and 6 forks from one table to another... not really rocket science. So we seat ourselves outside not wanting to cause too much fuss- I assume this is something the waitress didn't really count on because she look surprised to see out sitting outside when her and another waitress were bringing out out 6 knives and 6 forks having a very vocal bitch about us and the audacity we had to ask to be seated elsewhere...

STRIKE ONE


Strike 2 a) I ordered steak medium rare and was disappointed when I got this half-assed chewy kind of well done kind of not steak.
Strike 2 b) the bitch for what ever fucking reason gave me two forks and two knives- and not a fucking steak knife in sight

STRIKE 3- We weren't long finished out dinner and it wasn't near closing time and the staff started clearing tables around us and winding up wind breakers- subtle hint for us to leave?? I think so.

Suffice to say I won't be booking dinner there any time soon- thanks for nothing. P.S. your feeble attempts at making friendly conversation to compensate for the fact that we ALL heard you bitching about us was insulting. Next time just keep quiet and do your fucking job.

Apart from that - the night itself was a success- It was SO good to catch up with the girls. It made me realise just how much I missed them.

Awkward moment of the weekend has to go to Sunday evening when I got an email from a friend telling me that I had signed up for a drag show that I don't recall or even want to do- now I need to spend the week figuring out an excuse to get me out of it!!!

What happened?!

Remember that time I told you I needed to save money and that other time I told you I needed to drink less?

Turns out that all kind of went out the window Friday night.

I've been wanting to head back to Wellington ever since I went down for Siobhan's birthday- so this week I decided fuck it... there's nothing REALLY stopping me from going down again so why not just quit bitching an do it. Boy did I do the hell out of it!

So I picked up Toni straight after work Friday night and headed straight down and arrived at about 8:30. We had a room booked at The Mercure on Willis which we both thought was a sweet deal at the room was only $80 for the night- turns out there was a reason it was so cheap. Our room was basically a shoe box and if you had to use the bathroom you couldn't just turn around to leave- you kind of had to back yourself out. We reasoned that we were really only going to spend a couple of hours in the room anyway and most of that time would be spent in a state of total inebriation so we wouldn't really notice as much.

So we got ready and I managed to down a bottle and a half of wine to her half bottle- so the night was off to a good start. But from the taxi ride in the night gets a bit patchy- I can probably only bullet point the rest of my night- so here goes:

• Humming Bird for some cocktails (where I completely embarrassed myself by going into their store room thinking it was the mens toilets)
• Red Square to like the ice bar
• Some underground place for 2x vodka and mokes (mini cokes- Yes we like to hybridise a lot of our words... the bitch at the bar didnt think it was so funny)
• MERMAIDS - now I assume this is where the night got interesting and expensive... 
• Round of shots
• Stripper money
• Motorboating
• Round of shots
• Motorboating
• Stripper money
• Asking a waitress if I get to see her naked too
• Asking the girl on the bar if I could motorboat her too
• Round of shots
• Home (where aparently on the way we stopped at Garden Bar on the way and I fell asleep at the bar)

I wake up fully clothed at the opposite end of my bed on top of my blankets next to an uneaten Kebab- Toni tells me we didnt get home until 5:30am- It also turns out that I managed to get a strippers number that night as well. I must have been on good form!!!- We then spent the rest of the day wandering around the city trying to sober up enough for me to drive us back home... unsurprisingly we didnt get home until 5:30pm.

I bit the bullet this morning and checked my bank balance and after having $460 in there the night before- I was down to $38... thank fuck for the small amount of savings I have since I dont get paid until NEXT Wednesday! 

Toni and I at Hummingbird

The Lazy Song

So its a long weekend here and I think if I had to sum up my life for the past three days this song would best describe it:

Its funny how a bit of alone time can make you think. I have come up with 5 random things that I have decided about myself and my life as a result of all of this thinking:

1. I want to move
2. I hate call centres
3. I want to feel pursued (at least once!)
4. I need to stop drinking
5. I NEED to get back into running

I think I like to change my mind a lot also which makes decisions about my life tricky. So I have decided I need to focus on the things I can control and work on the small things before I have any hope of tackling the big stuff.

Okay so basically I can tackle 1 & 2 at the same time- which looking at things can't be straight away.
3 I have no control over so there is no point even spending much more time thinking about it.
So through process of elimination I am going to be looking at 4 & 5 for the next month- Here is how I want this to work-

Step 1: RUN! Every day after work- no matter what the weather. No matter how much I can not be fucked. I know I will thank myself in the end (I may need help being reminded of that!)

Step 2: DRINK LESS! This is also going to help me with the 'saving plan' I bought up in an earlier post. So I say 'Stop Drinking' yes but I think this will have to be a gradual process because lets be honest- I'm only 22 and I like to have fun and no... sadly I'm not one of those people who can go out clubbing completely sober and enjoy myself. This I think stems from a lack of self confidence- now heres where things get interesting...

I figure I run more and drink less I get fitter and healthier and shed a few right- ergo confidence rises... I figure  self confidence isn't something you either have or you don't it is something you need to grow and maintain. Hence the more I run and the less I drink - Ill be out clubbing sober in no time (okay so maybe not THAT fast... but faster than if I sat here and bitched about it without doing anything).

Also funny story about number 3- so I slept with this guy I like a while back and I haven't really spoken to him since. Mainly because I was completely drunk when it happened and dont remember anything. But it's funny because its a situation that I found paralleled one Jack is going through in his most recent post at Confronting the Confused- If you dont read it let me just tell you its deffo worth a read.

Anyway the situation is this: I told Zachary I liked him a lot and what I got back was "You're a really nice guy but I feel I should be honest with you. Im not really looking to be romantic with anyone at the moment. Im too happy being by myself." - I kind of understood this to an extent because I LOVE single life but when I probed him further it seemed like that was a life plan for him and it kind of threw me. I mean I know everyone is entitled to live their life the way they want to (and Im not judging at all) I just never thought at this age there would be people making plans to be alone the rest of their life- and I dont mean no friends of family but surely there are just some things/needs only a partner can fulfil?

Anyway recap- RUN MORE, DRINK LESS!


xo

 Before you comment on what I'm wearing- it was for a quiz night... Team theme "Social Misfits". Front to back: Geek, Slut, Emo

Restless

Went down to Wellington for my friends birthday this weekend. It was pretty good- Me and my friend Li went down together. I haven't seen her in like a month so it was SO good to have a catch up- its a 2 hour drive down to Wellington from here and we talked non-stop the whole way. I love trips like that where one conversation just  evolves into another.

We got to Wellington, it seemed so quick and made our way to Siobhan's through the maze that is the country's capital.Its such an awesome place- it makes me feel a little down about where I live which isn't good!!!

So we started drinking at like 5 and that was mainly because we had arrived super early and for me anyway I needed booze to lubricate conversation with awkward flatmates. Also I got to meet Justin- He and I come from the same town and while we have seen each other around we have never officially me... After basically 24 hours with him I think I have developed somewhat of a crush which also sucks since we don't even live in the same place.

This is where I casually skip over the part where I vommed all over a power box in the middle of the city after downing the speediest drink. And cut straight to the part where I told some guy that my name was Dylan because that was his name too and then when a questioned my honestly I said; "What kind of fuck wit would lie about his age?" - turns out that fuck wit is me!!!!

We also met this guy:

 from this tv show:

Which I actually can't stand so when Siobhan ran off screaming to get a photo with him and I finally caught up and realised who had caused the commotion my face did this:

Which was kinda obvious and thinking back on it ... kind of rude but I've just filed it under 'shit happens'.

Other than that and the vom incident it was a top night!!! 

Rapturerific!

Welcome to the beginning of the end. I hope you all had a good Rapturing?

Mine was pretty uneventful. I guess if you're reading this you're all gong to hell as well... good to know I'll know a few people.

Funny story- well I found it funny anyway...

So my iPod has been broken for a few weeks now. Frustrating as shit because it seems to be the only thing that keeps me running... it did this crazy shit where it froze and just basically shat itself .On Saturday I decided to get this sorted finally and I was taking in it to where it was bought to see if they could fix it for me. The trouble with that was it was a Christmas present from Mum and neither of us had the receipt details - I TXT mum and ask her to ring me ASAP and I get this message back:

"The worlds not ending if that's what you're worried about. Its tomorrow at 10 because God's an american."

As it was- customer service in this country is sub-par and no one could fix my iPod so I gave in and bought myself an iPhone!

Since the Rapture amounted to nothing I figure its about time I get serious about my life and where I'm going...

STEP ONE
Goal setting- My goal is to save enough money to travel the US and Canada in a year and a half- this is my plan so far:

Average Airfare- $2800
Accommodation for 3 months- $1800
Food/Alcohol- $2160 (I drink a lot - so sue me)
Current Debts- $3800

GRAND TOTAL- $10560

Wow... I just realised how much saving I have to do!!!!

Stay tuned to find out what step two will be.

Welcome!

Welcome to the new look me... I have been thinking about this for a while now and while I enjoyed the old Blog I think it is time for me to get a bit serious and write something with a little more credibility.

So for those of you who aren't familiar with me- I had/have a blog called 'TheDawnRave'. And while all of the writings in there were true- I want to be able to write something that I would want my friends to read. Some of the things in there are far from public knowledge and I would prefer to keep things as such... This is where the new blog comes in.

I'm not going to be hiding behind some pseudo-being who doesn't give his real name and Im way too easily confused to be able to keep nicknaming people. I'm also not going to publish anything that I wouldn't want people to know about me... for some of you you may find that disappointing- but I still hope you will want to take this journey with me.

I  guess the most fitting thing for a first post would be an introduction!

Hi - my name is Ben. I am currently 22y/o and live in New Zealand...

...Nice  to meet you :)